Thursday, September 26, 2013

It's Never Too Late...

to write again
to try something new
to love again
to rediscover yourself
to learn something new
to push yourself
to forgive yourself or someone else
to make a change

But it may be too late if you wait. Procrastination is the evil stepmother of living your life to the fullest.

The last few years I have gone through a number of difficulties and at times could not see the light at the end of the tunnel. But not seeing the light immediately, made me a better and stronger person. The 'darkness' taught me to persevere, to keep putting one foot in front of the other (literally), to want more out of life and for myself, to see a different perspective, and to change the way I had always done things.

Today, I am no where near the person I want to be, but I'm getting closer. I'm happier, healthier, more passionate and grateful; moving in a different direction and rediscovering who I really am. Life is a journey - a marathon not a sprint.

I now have the opportunity to make an impact on the lives of young adults. But I'm finding I am learning so much from them instead. I am living and loving life at full speed.

Instead of waiting, I made it happen. And what I have found is that I am inspiring others. And that makes me smile.

Don't wait for inspiration. Be the inspiration.

Monday, December 31, 2012

2013: My Year of 'Seconds'

In 2012, I completed 20 races (including a few walks, one 38-mile bike ride and my first half marathon). I've certainly racked up the mileage and it's been a blast doing so. I've strengthened bonds with current friends and even made a few new friends. I never knew so many people enjoyed running and I can actually say I enjoy it. I never thought I would hear myself say that (or write it for that matter). My goal for 2013 is to run at least one race a month and complete two half marathons in May and September.

As I look back on an amazing year, there are still a few things I would do differently. As my father has always told me, I learn the hard way. The goal is not making the same mistakes, but rather learning from them and moving on. I've learned a lot about myself this year, particularly what I'm able to accomplish.

A few things I have learned or have been reminded about: (In no particular order)
  • I'm stronger than I think I am.
  • I need to visit my family more often.
  • I don't give myself enough credit.
  • I trust easily, but trusting can also lead to heartbreak.
  • I will not be remembered for what I have accomplished. But I will be remembered for how I make people feel.
  • I need to make time to blog and write more (outside of work).
  • I will write more hand written thank you notes and send cards 'just because.'
  • I should tell the people I care about that I love them more often.
  • I will do one random act of kindness every day.
2012 was certainly my year of 'firsts.' Here's to 2013 - my year of 'seconds.' Happy New Year!

Friday, October 12, 2012

Year of Firsts


This year has definitely been a year of “firsts.” Last summer, I decided to start running. I’m not a runner, never have been but for some reason I decided to “just do it.” Since my first 5K last October, I have competed (I use this word loosely) in 17 races including the 5-mile Turkey Trot, Warrior Dash, Mud Ninja, Color Me Rad 5k and a 38-mile bike ride in a tutu. Everything is better in a tutu!
This Sunday, October 14, I will complete the Dayton River Corridor half marathon. Since I’ve been running I wanted to cross the half off my bucket list and join the 13.1 mile club – at least once.

But let’s be honest, the REAL reason I’m participating in the half is because I made a deal with a running buddy. She joined me in Mud Ninja and cursed me weeks later for a sore shoulder and bruised tailbone. I have to admit – Mud Ninja was not easy and I was certainly proud to cross that one off my list. Since she did Mud Ninja with me, I agreed to run the half with her.
I found this image on Pinterest today and it spoke to me. I can't say I'm "scared" about the half marathon on Sunday, but I'm definitely nervous. I'm determined to finish - running, walking or crawling.

Stay tuned…

#yearoffirsts

Friday, November 4, 2011

I'll Never Win First Place

Last June, running a 5K seemed like it was an impossible goal to accomplish. I used to be a runner (sort of). I could at least hang with the ‘fit’ kids. But as years flew by, schedules got crazy and work consumed my life, I found myself not spending enough time being active. I looked in the mirror one day and found myself wondering - where did time go? What happened to my body? Research says after 30, the average person loses about a half pound of muscle per year and gains one pound of fat. For women, add hormonal changes, stress and decreased metabolism. I remember hearing that statistic in my 20’s and always thought, “No way. That won’t be me.” Never say never.

I’ve always had the desire to be active and eat healthy. I think I eat very healthy compared to others. (Another life lesson – don’t compare yourself to others). I was brought up to eat extremely healthy – no pop, water instead; fresh veggies from grandpa’s garden; and we rarely ate out. Although, I think we rarely ate out because we’d break the budget with a family of seven. I’m sure my mom would have much rather eaten out than cook for all of us.

On June 16, I was invited to attend a wellness class based on the book called The Switch: How to Change Things When Change Is Hard. During the class, we were asked to draw a picture of what it looked like to achieve our wellness goal. I drew a picture of myself running a 5K, about to cross the finish line, and put my goal date to accomplish this in one year (June 16, 2012). I’m not an artist - as you can see – but I took my goal seriously and hung the drawing in my cubicle. In the meantime, I had already started walking 3+ miles since last spring and choosing the stairs instead of the elevator. I was determined to eventually run, even if it was only a mile at a time.

In July, a new colleague started at work. Erin is in her 20s, vibrant and runs 5K’s frequently. I found myself gravitating towards her – feeling confident that I could actually run a mile, at least on the treadmill. Somehow, we automatically became “workout buddies” and would often ask each other if we we’re going to go the fitness center after work. I became accountable. And in turn became motivated, even if Erin wasn’t able to workout with me.

In August, Erin “suggested” that we run the Ghosts n Goblins 5K on October 18. I agreed and thought this would be the day that I would actually accomplish my goal. Little did I know - I would run three 5K’s in less than two weeks in the month of October. (BTW – I’m not recommending this as a new runner. I have suffered severe shin splints - photo below).

Saturday, October 8 was the day I ran a 5K (I did not walk one time) at the Red Devil Roundup in Tipp City with Erin and her husband. My goal was to finish under 40 minutes. I crossed the finish line at 32:48, gasping for breath, crying and telling my husband “I did it! I did it!” I couldn’t believe I actually just accomplished my wellness goal. The last time I ran a 5K race was in 2005.

The next weekend I ran the Children’s Miracle March 5K on October 15 and finished third in my age group at 33:13. I even received a medal.

The Ghosts n Goblins 5K finally arrived on October 18. Four of us participated and dressed up in silly outfits. My knees and legs were sore and I was fighting severe shin splints, but I was determined to run the entire race. I was amazed at the size of the crowd (over 3,500 runners) and was hoping I wouldn’t get run over. To my surprise, I finished with a personal record (PR) at 31:53.

My next races are the Girls on the Run of Dayton 5k on November 19 and the 5-mile Turkey Trot on Thanksgiving Day. I will never be a marathon runner or win first place, but I feel much better about myself and have a sense of accomplishment. Even my blood pressure and cholesterol is much lower since last checked in January.

Small steps, motivation and a "workout buddy” can make a BIG difference.


















Tuesday, September 6, 2011

Wake Up Call

Recently, my husband and I traveled to Italy. I had been to Italy 15 years ago but this time it was much different and certainly a wake up call. A wake up call to how spoiled and self absorbed many Americans are. The luxuries we have at our disposal are many - we can get anything at anytime, whenever we want it. And if we can't have something immediately, we get irate and unhappy.

We don't value family and personal relationships. We're too busy to stop and take a moment to find out how others are doing, how we can help or make someone's life a little easier. We work too much, eat poorly and overindulge in big cars, big houses and look to unnecessary "things" to make us happy.

I'm not saying every American is this way, but many of us are, including me. I found myself at times longing for free wi-fi access (to log on to Facebook, email and Twitter) and wanting air conditioning to be available every where we went - both are rare, even in Rome and Florence, and it was over 100 degrees while we were there. If you want Internet, you have to pay for it and it's not available at every restaurant and cafe like it is in the US. If you want AC, you opened the windows.

Americans are also way too uptight. Europeans live by there own rules (or as I like to say 'lack thereof'). :) They live passionately, love much (PDA is not uncommon) and value relationships. Dinner is a three hour ordeal where they sit, eat slowly, savor the food and have long conversations with their guests. I experienced two of these dinners and found myself getting ansy and wanting to leave after an hour. We stopped at a little cafe in Florence and got a piece of pizza to go for lunch one day. The employee was beside herself that we were not sitting down to eat. It was definetly cute, but we honestly had to go meet our group.

The bottom line is this - we can learn a lot from other people and other cultures. Open your mind, open your heart and live each day to the fullest. It's a wide, wide world out there just waiting to be explored. Have fun!















A typical car in Italy. Makes sense since gas is $10/gallon!

Sunday, January 23, 2011

The Best of 2010


I am stealing this idea from my sister-in-law, Erin. This is a reflection on all that happened in my life in 2010. It was a busy year and I'm so blessed.


  • Spent New Year's Eve in Chicago and stepped out on the Sky Ledge of the Willis Tower (formerly Sears Tower).

  • Attended my brother and sister-in-law's graduation (on time) from Palmer College of Chiropractic after a long plane delay and crazy route from Dayton to Atlanta to Davenport, Iowa.

  • My good friend, Jen, had twin baby girls in the Spring.

  • My good friend, Sarah, had a baby boy on my birthday - which I kept telling her would happen, but she wouldn't believe me.

  • Finally went to the Columbus Zoo on one of the hottest days of the year. I loved every minute of it!

  • A little grey and white kitten showed up at our front door. I took her in, named her Joon and she was adopted by my brother and is living the good life.

  • Visited my brother in West Hollywood and attended the gay pride parade down Santa Monica Boulevard. The top 10 winners of American Idol stayed in a hotel across the street from my brother's apartment. Attended an LA Dodgers game and sat right behind home plate.

  • Spent a week with by dear friend Carla and her son Jonas visiting from Germany while my car was broken down. It was the best week of ever and a blessing that my car broke down.

  • Spent our 9-year anniversary in Chicago biking along the lake shore and attending a broadway musical.

  • Went canoeing down the Little Miami River over Labor Day weekend for the second year in a row. We did not tip over this time. Totally canoe pros!

  • Was a bridesmaid in my brother Paul's wedding on September 11 at the Rialto Square Theatre - a beautiful day!

  • Rode in a real NASCAR car around Chicagoland Speedway at 130+ miles an hour - crazy!

  • Received a visit from the Matthews girls. I miss them dearly.

  • Took a new job. I wasn't even looking.

  • The Bates family moved to the Dayton area from Kalamazoo, Michigan and we have become great friends. Their cats Sophie and Professor Albert rock, too.

  • My baby brother, Robert, graduated from Michigan State University.

  • Spent New Year's Eve with my parents and visited the Dayton Art Institute.

I know I'm forgetting things, but I must say it's been an exciting year. I look forward to what 2011 has to bring. Thank you to everyone who has been a part of my journey.


Friday, December 10, 2010

To Do or Not To Do - That is the question



This week I received a media inquiry from a HARO - Help a Reporter Out. One of the reporters was asking for feedback about what not to do on social networks. I can think of a million things not to do - especially on a personal profile - but I started thinking about what businesses and organizations should and shouldn't do when using social media.


From a business perspective, here are a few key items to consider:
  • Don't always talk about yourself or constantly try to sell your products/services. You should position yourself as a thought leader and expert in your field - a "trust agent" as Chris Brogan says.

  • Don't talk negatively about your competition, people or other businesses – again, position yourself positively as a leader in the industry but don't bash someone while doing it. As the old saying goes, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”

  • Write grammatically correct and spell correctly. Don’t use profanity.

  • Talk or blog as yourself, not about yourself. No one cares about what you are doing every second of the day.

  • Don’t send automated messages when someone follows you on Twitter. It’s not personalized, it’s a waste of time and it fills up people’s inboxes.

  • Don’t send/schedule your Twitter and Facebook messages to go out all at the same time. This clogs up news feeds and people will stop paying attention and unsubscribe.

  • Be honest and authentic. Don’t ignore negative feedback. Address it head on. The more you ignore it, the worse it can get.

  • Communicate and respond. If someone posts a question, idea or a comment – respond in a timely fashion. If your social network sits idle, you will lose credibility and trust.

What other things do you suggest?